Christmas Party? Sorry, can’t make it.

We’ve decided to organise a Christmas party.

It’s a while since we threw a proper Christmas bash for family and friends.  Now, I know that we’ve left it a little late, to book a venue, sort out food and so on.  However, I have found a lovely room, and the owners will cater if required.  They also provide overnight accommodation for anyone too pickled to make it home afterwards. So ..  this knees-up will be taking place on Monday 21st December at 7.30pm.

All of that was amazingly easy to arrange; done within 24 hours of the first party thought crossing my mind.

Phone calls and emails swiftly followed; invitations were extended.

A week later it occurs to me that I may have been over-ambitious; I think I may have got a little carried away with the thought of spending a few pleasurable festive fun-filled hours in the company of my nearest and dearest.  It seems that not everyone has the same enthusiasm as me.

I’m well aware that 21st December is very close to Christmas, and people will obviously be busy with their own preparations and events.  I also know that many folk will have to get up the following morning and go to work.  I also definitely know for sure that if a friend was to call our house and invite us to a completely free festive bash, we’d be there like a shot, especially during Christmas week – what a great way to get the festivities started.

I should point out that the lack of enthusiasm I’m talking about emanates in the main from our midlife friends.  Our daughter has had a completely different response from the young livelies she’s asked along, and some of them will have to travel half way across the country to join us.  And that’s the difference.  Young people are keen to get involved in anything that promises to be fun, regardless of undertaking long, expensive train journeys, sleeping on someone’s floor or dragging themselves to work bleary eyed after a night out.

Guys looking lively at a 50th birthday party!

Middle aged people, on the other hand, are not so keen it seems.  Maybe midlifers are just too tired.  Maybe midlifers are sick to death of Christmas; after all we’ve done a good number of them.  It’s completely plausible that my midlife friends are struggling to find that elusive “Christmas spirit” in the midst of this bloody awful recession.  Or maybe their partying days are just, well .. over.

Me thinks not.  Me thinks that lack of confidence is a primary factor; laziness is another.  It’s easier to not do something than to do it.  Comfort zone shrinkage is a common affliction amongst the middle aged; I witness it every day in the people I know.  I have to concede ultimately, however, that it’s possible I’m way off the mark with my entire way of thinking.  Perhaps it’s just me.

Regardless of the midlife reluctance vibes coming my way, and I will waste no more time considering them, we are going to have a lovely evening in the company of like-minded people who love a good old knees-up.  Even if it means holding a recruitment day at the local college.

"The music's playing, but I'll be buggered if I'm getting up to dance."


  1. Hello~

    It’s not my age, 53. I like a good party with the right people. The problem here is that when tough times hit, people tend to scatter. Seems everyone wants to hide at home.

    And the issue for me personally, in the USA, Christmas gets shoved down your throat before Halloween is here and done.

    Too much hype and pressure to purchase and perform. So, I suppose I am put off by that, forced merriment.

    Growing up, Christmas festivities, advertising, shopping and anticipation was AFTER Thanksgiving. Now it starts in October.

    Seems the real spirit of Christmas is lost in media hype and retail pressure.

    So, not laziness or age in all cases. I think recession and over dose of hype in tough times. If one is having a really hard time making ends meet, Christmas as presented to the American consumer is not a reality.


    • Hello Jeffrie Ann,

      Thank you for your feedback. I really appreciate you taking the time to write your thoughts here.

      Have to say – for those having a hard time in the UK, and there are many people struggling as a result of the recession, Christmas is also presented in an unrealistic and unattainable way. The way our family deals with this is to completely buck the trend; for many years we have made most of our Christmas gifts for family and friends.

      Christmas for us means spending time, playing daft games, and eating too much! I agree that it’s hard to overlook the media hype and retail pressure, but for me the most precious things in life cost very little and these are what we focus on.

      Best regards & Happy Christmas, Suzy Barker, Just Midlife


  2. Hello~

    “…the most precious things in life cost very little and these are what we focus on.”

    Well said, and thank you.

    Be well! And Merry Christmas!

    Jeffrie Ann


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